My parents-in-law like to mention to my wife and I that we are always busy, always running around, hardly having time to ourselves. In some respects, they’re right. We have multiple jobs and tons of responsibilities. We’re both young, driven people who want to leave the world better than we found it. Do we work too much? Maybe, but who is to say how much is too much? After all, she and I have time to watch movies and go out for ice cream. We have time to take care of our pets, and we have found time to go on a cruise last year and again this year.
Yes, there are long days in which we are out of the house at 7 in the morning and not back until 7 in the afternoon, but those days are really not that common. Many times, one or both of us comes back earlier in the day. There are times when one of us stays home because that’s how our schedule works. We find time to take care of the house, the pets, and, perhaps most importantly, we find time to take care of each other.
Each and every single time that I have achieved something in life, my mother has been quick to say that the worst was yet to come. Half of the time, she was joking about this. The other half… She was right. It doesn’t matter the achievement, there is always some new task or mission to achieve, and it can be exhausting, no matter how fun it is to kick hornets’ nests and run away at full speed, so to speak. And that’s exactly what I’m talking about in writing that “the crazy is yet to come.”
My wife and I are planning to have a child. There will be sleepless nights or entire days and nights when The Child™ will be sick and take us down with them. It’s going to be a good 16 to 18 years of taking care of another human being… Maybe less if they turn out to be geniuses. Maybe more if they have special needs. And we both agree that we’re not going to stop at one child. We agreed that we want to adopt a second in a few years, but that’s a whole other topic.
What I’m getting at is that life is complicated enough as it is without us getting in our own way. Drama, resentment, and all of those negative things are unnecessary and get in our way of getting things done. It’s easier said than done, of course… And I have a ton of work to do to make it happen.