[row][span size=’3′][slab_h5][slabtext]“There are wounds that never show[/slabtext] [slabtext]on the body that are deeper and more hurtful[/slabtext][slabtext] than anything that bleeds.”[/slabtext][slabtext]-Laurell K. Hamilton,Mistral’s Kiss[/slabtext][/slab_h5][/span][span size=’5′]I was browsing several blogs today when I came upon this post talking about this post about depression. The second post is written by a woman who has been fighting her depression for several years now, and she is being quite public about it.
I was reading the second post when I went back to the first one and read the comments. I shouldn’t have done that.[/span][/row]
One comment has stuck out and has been replied to very heavily since the person wrote it. Here it is:
“I am sad that I don’t have anything to be sad about. = WHITE PEOPLE PROBLEM. How do we not see this as some sort of out of control narcissism? The whole thing is so consistently self-referential, so far up its own ass. Funny how the realization that everything is empty never leads to asceticism, no one is ever like “maybe I should just go to a soup kitchen and feed some people with actual problems.” Never does the thought that some sort of perspective on ones (sic) problems might help as opposed to wallowing in the existential profundity of dried out corn.”
This comment was very ironic since the title of the first post was “Struggling to understand depression? Read this.” The commenter, who goes by the pseudonym of “ZYX,” has received several replies to his comment. Some of those replies are angry, others are not. I was going to reply to him, but I’m trying to stay away from “flame wars” as of late.
However, if I had an opportunity to reply to him, I would ask him if he really thinks that depression is a mental condition of Whites and/or privileged people. There is no evidence of that, by the way. Depression can hit anyone. Not only that, but, according to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), “blacks, Hispanics, non-Hispanic persons of other races or multiple races” are more likely to be depressed than other groups.
Next, I would ask him why he thinks that a depressed person is just wallowing in their own despair and nothing else, a “sort of out of control narcissism.” See, I’ve met plenty of people with depression, some in my own family, and they are not being selfish or self-centered in their depression. Based on my own experience and what I’ve learned about depression, people with depression are not out to make mountains out of molehills. They’re not feeling all those feelings of “blah” because they think that others’ problems are minimal.
All in all, it’s a nonproductive thing to just accuse people with depression (or any other mental health condition) of being narcissists or privileged people who don’t really know what suffering is. It’s not productive to want to address the problem of mental health by blaming it on the patient. I’m yet to meet or hear of a case of mental disease who asked for it… Or likes it. But, sadly, there are plenty of people like the commenter up there.
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