The Parent Ren, Part X: It’s Harder Than It Looks

Some people will tell you that it’s easy to be a parent. They’re lying. It’s not easy to be a responsible parent, especially if you’re also trying to balance a career. You have to learn to let go of some things and embrace other things... Things like the unpredictable nature of a little person who is learning how to adapt to the world around them. It’s a big responsibility, but it comes with great reward, if you’re up to it.

The Man They Wanted Me To Be

dad and son at the beach

The idea of what a man should be like, or should be all about, has certainly changed over the years. It’s changed in my lifetime. But there are some ideas of manliness that are still out there, and they’re hurting men just as much as they hurt others. Growing up, the most macho of men in my extended family wanted me to be a certain way. I was lucky in that the men who counted let me be me. Now, it’s up to me to teach my daughter what being a man is all about, so that one day she can deal with men and — if she so chooses — can choose a man who’ll be her partner in achieving wonders.