The idea of what a man should be like, or should be all about, has certainly changed over the years. It’s changed in my lifetime. But there are some ideas of manliness that are still out there, and they’re hurting men just as much as they hurt others. Growing up, the most macho of men in my extended family wanted me to be a certain way. I was lucky in that the men who counted let me be me. Now, it’s up to me to teach my daughter what being a man is all about, so that one day she can deal with men and — if she so chooses — can choose a man who’ll be her partner in achieving wonders.